“Mom, I like boys.” These four words came out of the mouth of my precious fourteen-year-old son. I knew it was coming, and I was ok with it. I had always told my children that all I ever wanted for them was to be happy. They also knew they could talk to me about anything in the world, which I later discovered, was a life saver.
Today, my son is a very successful young man. He has a wonderful career, and lives nearby in his own apartment. Thankfully, I get to see him often. There is something to be said for the unique relationship between a gay man and his mother. The dynamics are like no other relationship I have ever experienced. Everyday I am proud to say I am his mother.
My son and I talk about a lot of issues; current events, some politics, fashion, boyfriends, cooking, shopping, love and sex. When a situation comes up, and I know without a doubt how he should handle it, I try to keep my mouth shut. That is incredibly difficult for me to do; I am a mom. We have a deep seeded need to tell people what to do. Being bossy is what I’m good at. Occasionally, he will say those magic words, “What do you think?” Only then will I offer up my two cents.
There are a lot of men and women out there who do not have a good relationship with their parents. This is where I hope I can help. No subject is taboo. Nothing is off limits. Write to me about love, hate, rejection, acceptance, denial, fashion, marriage, divorce, sex, and, yes, even religion. I am here to listen, to bounce ideas off, provide feedback, or a shoulder. Think of me as a cross between Aunt Bea, June Cleaver, Alice the Housekeeper, Peg Bundy, all the women from Steel Magnolia’s, and a couple from Sex and the City. Over the years, I have helped other parents who were struggling to accept their gay child. I welcome and encourage parents to write as well. I have been involved in PFLAG, AIDS Walks, lobbied for Gay Rights, and walked in my fair share of Gay Pride Parades.
Send me your questions and concerns. My email address is firstname.lastname@example.org. I will do my best to answer every email that is sent, either in print or privately. Please be specific if you want to remain anonymous. Remember, your question may be the same concern someone else has. And you never know when it may save someone’s life.